Confidence completely shattered and never recovered a while back. But have to change it somehow. And fast-ish! Need stuff to work on that work kinda like a gradual progression thing rather than just jump right in
Can do progressional stuff by talking on the phone to friends if you hate doing that kind of thing then work up to hanging out. (I guess skype would work too)
like; step 1: play a game with someone but using voice mostly or voice and video mostly to talk or
take a friend to a movie is pretty low stress compared to like coffee or dinner I'd imagine
Oh i dont really have problems with my friends (except 1 because he became a completely different person). Its just general shyness even to the point of ignoring people and not saying hi or talking back to people
i psych my mind when i know ill be around strangers, so then i can be able to say hello. hate going to a party...with strangers looking at you and I tend to think "look at all these ***.." i know...im not very nice in my mind at first
i get realllly quiet around ppl. of course...many who know me just believe im plotting something evil. Which is not always the case >.>
I just don't know what to say, especially to females...
you can either get on medication to make you so *** up you don't care (xanax), try therapy, or deal with it.
i have to deal with it every day, and most people don't think it's an issue i'd have. i do though. i remember being in high school, walking in, seeing all the people, feeling weird, and then just leaving and going back home. i couldn't deal with people. even though i still have problems even with friends, i overcome it. i have to in order to actually live my life.
You can either just build it up the moment before socializing, like chanting in your mind to just go out there and say hi.
My dad...he didnt know how to talk to a woman...he came to me saying he was nervous, dint know what to say... All i told him was to just say hello and ask how she is doing and her day...
After that, my dad had a different woman every week til he found one to date
Confidence completely shattered and never recovered a while back. But have to change it somehow. And fast-ish! Need stuff to work on that work kinda like a gradual progression thing rather than just jump right in
Can do progressional stuff by talking on the phone to friends if you hate doing that kind of thing then work up to hanging out. (I guess skype would work too)
like; step 1: play a game with someone but using voice mostly or voice and video mostly to talk or
take a friend to a movie is pretty low stress compared to like coffee or dinner I'd imagine
Oh i dont really have problems with my friends (except 1 because he became a completely different person). Its just general shyness even to the point of ignoring people and not saying hi or talking back to people
You can either just build it up the moment before socializing, like chanting in your mind to just go out there and say hi.
My dad...he didnt know how to talk to a woman...he came to me saying he was nervous, dint know what to say... All i told him was to just say hello and ask how she is doing and her day...
After that, my dad had a different woman every week til he found one to date
You can either just build it up the moment before socializing, like chanting in your mind to just go out there and say hi.
My dad...he didnt know how to talk to a woman...he came to me saying he was nervous, dint know what to say... All i told him was to just say hello and ask how she is doing and her day...
After that, my dad had a different woman every week til he found one to date
Also called being rico suave? >_>;
pssh i made him a ***, he did catch some psycho ***...
pssh i made him a ***, he did catch some psycho ***...
Yep, happens, filters not always work when fishing, sometimes you get fisn you want sometimes you get snakeheads (which btw they say is good meat, but NOPE!)
Damnit aly, I am going home now! D: Have fun at party ^^
Idk for sure, as my problems are only with large groups of people, but as Aly already mentioned booze can help a great deal.
if that's not an option, try to be mindful of the anxiety, & when you feel it, recoginze it, & try to let it wash over you & away. it helps to try to remember it's only a temporary state of being, & that you can escape it.
if you're just all up in your head about people's reaction's to your words, that's just something you have to, as the christians say, "learn to accept the things you can not control"
idk if any of that helps, but wtf, it's worth a shot.
You can either just build it up the moment before socializing, like chanting in your mind to just go out there and say hi.
My dad...he didnt know how to talk to a woman...he came to me saying he was nervous, dint know what to say... All i told him was to just say hello and ask how she is doing and her day...
After that, my dad had a different woman every week til he found one to date
Also called being rico suave? >_>;
pssh i made him a ***, he did catch some psycho ***...
This is a thread that I found on another website I post at. It can be really really interesting. I thought it deserved a place here.
Post your random thoughts for the day here, or anything else that intrigues you.
For starters, is it possible to give constructive critism to someone who doesn't have a neck? I totally just walked by a girl who didn't. Someone isn't getting a necklace for Valentines day!
And who decided black and white can't be colors? I want to say a racist. I really do.