Asura.Floppyseconds said:
»I see parents who have to hit their child as bad parents honestly. I don't want to start that debate in here though.
I think the real issue is that parents don't really know how to discipline correctly. I hear a lot of threats like "If you keep doing that I'm taking your _______ away! I'm serious! Do you really want to lose it?" all while the child learns what the line is, and how to tippy toe past it just enough to set them off and back off like it's a game.
All these new parents with the parenting method of "I'll never discipline my child" have a really rude outcome awaiting them IMO. A child needs to know discipline for their actions, and different types of discipline based on the actions they have done. There shouldn't be a go to discipline for everything they do wrong, because that quickly will nullify the effects of that action and they'll be like "yea whatever, I'll be out of this soon enough, just you wait."
The "alright, go to your room, I had it with you!" is just freedom really. The "go to your room while I think of your consequence" and then actually thinking what fits the crime, and then following through without budging I think is more appropriate. Following through with the consequence, and then after they complete it, you sit down with them and have a talk with your child seems logical to me. You're putting your foot down when you need to, they learn that something will happen with everything they do, whether it's good or bad, and they also receive the resolution that you are doing what you are doing because you care about them and their future. You just explaining why you did it isn't just enough, you both need to, especially the child. They need to know why you did it.
If you're just there yabbering about why, and they are just nodding, and then you pat them on the head and they run off, they are just learning how not to cause trouble. When they are older, and they don't care what you think anymore, that just gets exposed.
but what do I know, I'm just 22 ;p just my opinion