I'd just not send it if I wasn't interested in anything more than that
Bismarck.Josiahfk said: »
despite however neutral I may make myself.
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I dunno, maybe I'm just weird, but sending someone an email wishing them well but not actually wanting to talk to them is kinda odd
I'd just not send it if I wasn't interested in anything more than that
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 [internal screaming] it attacked me before i started recording Josiahkf said: » Bismarck.Dracondria said: » I dunno, maybe I'm just weird, but sending someone an email wishing them well but not actually wanting to talk to them is kinda odd I'd just not send it if I wasn't interested in anything more than that If I don't actually want to talk to them I wouldn't say anything. Not because I don't care about the person, I just don't feel like talking. If I do feel like it though I'll send a message and then it's up to them if they want to talk. But if I'm "apathetic towards talking to them" then I wouldn't send a message in the first place.
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 [crying intensifies]   made it to Weebville I'm cleaning out old bookmarks because I have entirely too many things saved that I won't ever need. Then I ran into something that was made of gold, albeit tarnished... but gold! The what kind of girl/guy do you like thread, lol. Funny that I saved that. Ooooh boy.
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Yomisha said: » I'm cleaning out old bookmarks because I have entirely too many things saved that I won't ever need. Then I ran into something that was made of gold, albeit tarnished... but gold! The what kind of girl/guy do you like thread, lol. Funny that I saved that. Ooooh boy. the good old days. Talking to someone whom you may not have spoken to in a long time can always be uncomfortable, regardless of how the two left each other. Genuine care means wanting to talk to someone, hear them out. What you're doing instead is actually more selfish, although without realizing it; it's one of those self-rewarding behaviours, like doing an act of generousity only to feel better with one's own conscience(ie giving a few cents to a clochard without even looking at them).
Unless this person is really waiting for you to send a message, don't bother, you will only cause discomfort. Or bother, but properly. Bloodrose said: » He wants to care. From a distance, where no one can see him and how much he cares. If you don't care sending them a message is hypocritical.
Before asking anything else you should be asking whether or not they'd want to hear from you, since you said you'd had a falling out. If they do everything else is fluff, if not you might be better off doing nothing. For some people a broken friendship is better left in the past.
Edit: That might sound harsh but I'm saying this as someone who's been on the receiving end of what your aiming for and it's not always a good thing to have someone just pop back into your life.
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Bismarck.Josiahfk said: » But more importantly I don't want my concern or care for someone to create a feeling of (social) obligation to me, for dialogue or attention etc It might be true that you have to give if you want to take, but the opposite is true as well. Bismarck.Josiahfk said: » Regardless of my own personal apathy or a lack of need towards dialogue. I see care also as a tool that can be manipulated if one desires, so I put strong effort towards never behaving in that manner. By involvement I didn't mean a literal activity of some kind. I meant emotionally. I thought my example had been clear enough..it's about not monopolizing the giving part.
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