Seriously? Do you really think so? Explain your logic.
Disclaimer: I'm not trying to be a douche. SRS RIGHT NAO
well, i understand that she hid things from you, but if she wanted to continue hiding things from you, would she want to move back in?
not only that, but when you move into someones place, you give that person a lot of power to disrupt your life. would she really want to put herself at her mercy if she didn't honestly believe it was going to work out in the end?
there seem to be some contradictions. i understand she won't answer your phone calls, but it's not like she could very feasibly move in and then ignore you. it seems pretty clear that she wants to reopen lines of communication.
i'm sure there's been a time when you needed some space to work things out, but you generally don't want to move in with someone if you're not planning for things to ultimately work out.
of course, it depends on whether you are willing to forgive her for hiding other stuff. i suppose it ultimately depends if you are willing to take a hit to your pride to try to make the relationship work. if you've been together for years, likely worth one last effort. if it's a fling, it probably isnt.
*sigh* no one even glanced at me D: nor was there anyone to glance at. on a lighter note. got stuck in the elevator. went to floor 1. doors didn't open, elevator went up to floor 4. doors didn't open, elevator went back to floor 1. doors didn't open. elevator went to floor 7. doors opened. walked down the stairs =/
*sigh* no one even glanced at me D: nor was there anyone to glance at. on a lighter note. got stuck in the elevator. went to floor 1. doors didn't open, elevator went up to floor 4. doors didn't open, elevator went back to floor 1. doors didn't open. elevator went to floor 7. doors opened. walked down the stairs =/
would be cool if they got stuck with you and a girl in there eh
*sigh* no one even glanced at me D: nor was there anyone to glance at. on a lighter note. got stuck in the elevator. went to floor 1. doors didn't open, elevator went up to floor 4. doors didn't open, elevator went back to floor 1. doors didn't open. elevator went to floor 7. doors opened. walked down the stairs =/
*sigh* no one even glanced at me D: nor was there anyone to glance at. on a lighter note. got stuck in the elevator. went to floor 1. doors didn't open, elevator went up to floor 4. doors didn't open, elevator went back to floor 1. doors didn't open. elevator went to floor 7. doors opened. walked down the stairs =/
that was a sign...
; - ;
and yeah it would be cool if i got stuck with a girl in there
well, i understand that she hid things from you, but if she wanted to continue hiding things from you, would she want to move back in?
not only that, but when you move into someones place, you give that person a lot of power to disrupt your life. would she really want to put herself at her mercy if she didn't honestly believe it was going to work out in the end?
there seem to be some contradictions. i understand she won't answer your phone calls, but it's not like she could very feasibly move in and then ignore you. it seems pretty clear that she wants to reopen lines of communication.
i'm sure there's been a time when you needed some space to work things out, but you generally don't want to move in with someone if you're not planning for things to ultimately work out.
of course, it depends on whether you are willing to forgive her for hiding other stuff. i suppose it ultimately depends if you are willing to take a hit to your pride to try to make the relationship work. if you've been together for years, likely worth one last effort. if it's a fling, it probably isnt.
It's not like I'm wanting to not trust her. Like I said, we've been together for two years, and she lived here for a year and a half. I love her more than anything. It's just all the ***that's happened has made it hard for me to trust her. When she first started begging me she said "we can just be roommates, friends!" and that she still needed "space".
*sigh* no one even glanced at me D: nor was there anyone to glance at. on a lighter note. got stuck in the elevator. went to floor 1. doors didn't open, elevator went up to floor 4. doors didn't open, elevator went back to floor 1. doors didn't open. elevator went to floor 7. doors opened. walked down the stairs =/
that was a sign...
; - ;
and yeah it would be cool if i got stuck with a girl in there
could be worse, you could have been stuck with a hairy dude who smells like cheese and farts old beef.
*sigh* no one even glanced at me D: nor was there anyone to glance at. on a lighter note. got stuck in the elevator. went to floor 1. doors didn't open, elevator went up to floor 4. doors didn't open, elevator went back to floor 1. doors didn't open. elevator went to floor 7. doors opened. walked down the stairs =/
that was a sign...
; - ;
and yeah it would be cool if i got stuck with a girl in there
could be worse, you could have been stuck with a hairy dude who smells like cheese and farts old beef.
oh god >< don't remind me of what happens every morning going to class
*sigh* no one even glanced at me D: nor was there anyone to glance at. on a lighter note. got stuck in the elevator. went to floor 1. doors didn't open, elevator went up to floor 4. doors didn't open, elevator went back to floor 1. doors didn't open. elevator went to floor 7. doors opened. walked down the stairs =/
that was a sign...
; - ;
and yeah it would be cool if i got stuck with a girl in there
could be worse, you could have been stuck with a hairy dude who smells like cheese and farts old beef.
oh god >< don't remind me of what happens every morning going to class
relationships come down to personal opinion, but if it was me i'd look at it from a simple risk/reward perspective
worst case scenario, she moves in, she screws up again, you kick her to the curb, yeah it may be a little bit more emotionally painful but you're already hurting, right? risk is pretty small, considering
possible reward? you get to keep the woman you love and have loved for years. as long as there is any significant possibility, and if she says she's willing to try to make it work, it seems there would be, i would think the reward outweighs the risk when emotion is removed from the equation
to me, i'd give her one last chance and end it if it still doesn't work out
at least then, when you left the relationship, you could leave with the satisfaction of knowing you absolutely gave it your all and it still didn't work
instead of always wondering if it could have worked if you had just tried a bit harder to make it work
relationships come down to personal opinion, but if it was me i'd look at it from a simple risk/reward perspective
worst case scenario, she moves in, she screws up again, you kick her to the curb, yeah it may be a little bit more emotionally painful but you're already hurting, right? risk is pretty small, considering
possible reward? you get to keep the woman you love and have loved for years. as long as there is any significant possibility, and if she says she's willing to try to make it work, it seems there would be, i would think the reward outweighs the risk when emotion is removed from the equation
to me, i'd give her one last chance and end it if it still doesn't work out
at least then, when you left the relationship, you could leave with the satisfaction of knowing you absolutely gave it your all and it still didn't work
instead of always wondering if it could have worked if you had just tried a bit harder to make it work
the minds of many on this thread would make an excellent love doctor. i'm taking notes.
relationships come down to personal opinion, but if it was me i'd look at it from a simple risk/reward perspective
worst case scenario, she moves in, she screws up again, you kick her to the curb, yeah it may be a little bit more emotionally painful but you're already hurting, right? risk is pretty small, considering
possible reward? you get to keep the woman you love and have loved for years. as long as there is any significant possibility, and if she says she's willing to try to make it work, it seems there would be, i would think the reward outweighs the risk when emotion is removed from the equation
to me, i'd give her one last chance and end it if it still doesn't work out
at least then, when you left the relationship, you could leave with the satisfaction of knowing you absolutely gave it your all and it still didn't work
instead of always wondering if it could have worked if you had just tried a bit harder to make it work
the minds of many on this thread would make an excellent love doctor. i'm taking notes.
