In general, what are the Monk Subtle Blow sets for both TPing and WSing on Aminon, and are there any other Penance upgrades beyond Relic head?
No on the latter. MNK has 35 base Subtle Blow, so you just need to fit 15 into your sets, and there's multiple ways to do it.
Schere Earring - 3
Dignitary's Earring - 5
Chirich Ring +1 - 10
Bhikku Crown +3 - 14
Kendatsuba +1 set - 8/10/12
Hesychasts's Crown +4 - 12
Hesychast's Gloves +4 - 10
WHM main or sub Auspice - Varies
Food - Varies
So for instance, a single Chirich Ring +1 and a Dignitary's earring caps your subtle blow 1 trait across all sets, and only uses 2 slots (the accessories, the weakest ones, though you might not want to lose Moonshade Earring). You could also just throw Mpaca's Hose + any 10 Subtle Blow+10 piece on and call it a day.
You will almost always be using Sherida Earring, Niqmaddu Ring, and Moonlight Belt +1 in all of your TP/WS sets, so there's your 25 SBII. If you're doing a WS at attack cap, you're probably using Mpaca's Hose for 5 more, so you can drop 5 from your SB1 set and still hit cap.