Random Thoughts.....What Are You Thinking?

Until now, he's lived between the two of us. But a while back, she asked if I'd give her an extra 1% custody so they could get a place with an extra room because she's pregnant (her husband is in the army). When I refused, I got a surprise a few months later when I was informed that she'd filed with an attorney for "school year" style custody, so she could enroll him in head start. Which, of course, we had NEVER talked about before. (He's only 3.)

Of course, she gets what she wants, because I work irregular hours, and she doesn't work at all. So, child support is going up, partly because of the change in % custody (from 50% to me only having 25%), and partly because she went from having an income (small, but something) to no income, because they don't take her husband into consideration for it.

It's odd, though. Supposedly, her lawyer thinks it would be $350-375 per month. With no reported income on her end. But when we filed originally, for 50/50 and her having an income roughly 1/3 of mine, I was going to have to pay $425 per month. When we filed our last agreement, his mom set it at $200 per month because she knew I couldn't survive off of any more than that.

But now, that's all out the window. She's left me feeling pretty beaten down about the whole situation. It was bad enough when she lived here in town and I had to share him with her. It feels like there's nothing fair about the justice system. I just keep telling myself that I'm doing what's best for him in the long run by going along with it, doing my best to stay important to him as he grows up.